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Creating a New Model of Manhood

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This is the shortest chapter of the book, not because it is less important, but because it deals with something that is yet to emerge—a new model of masculinity. We can encourage and support boys in their efforts to hone their emotional intelligence and live connected to their hearts, but they can’t do that fully unless the very notion of what a man is changes. Even today, the hallmark of manhood touted on TV and elsewhere is a football-watching emotional idiot. Just last night on TV, there was a guy in the midst of breakup saying to a friend, “I think I feel something, like emotions. Have you ever felt emotions?�?p>

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As parents and concerned caregivers, we are the midwives of this extraordinary transformation. But ultimately the new definition of manhood will emerge from the minds and hearts of our sons as they grow and develop. The largest responsibility for the creation of a new definition of manhood is theirs to discover, to experience, to experiment with, and to refine. What we can do is open the discussion, support them in their efforts, and create a strong support system around them that reinforces the benefits of emotional expression and deep interpersonal connection.

Talk about the Mixed Messages of Manhood

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“Looking back at when I was growing up, I realize that the main question that I struggled with for most of my childhood was, ‘What exactly does it mean to be a man?�?I never actually articulated that question and I certainly never asked anyone. I just kept trying to pick up clues wherever I could find them.�?p>

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It’s a mark of how blinded we are as a culture that the core question our sons have to struggle with is not even a topic of conversation. What is clear is that our definition of a good man is in a tumultuous and confusing transition. The old models, from knights in shining armor to John Wayne, still hold some attraction but are clearly one-dimensional and inadequate. The new models that appear out of the “Sensitive New Age Guy�?sitcom portrayal of fumbling manhood offer half-baked alternatives riddled with their own inadequacies.

?他们又怎么可能知道在没有�h愿意承认问题所在的地方�Q�他们需要向什么方向发展呢?

So how do we help our sons deal with this heavy burden? How can they possibly know what direction they need to head if no one is willing to admit the question is out there?

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By talking about it. By shining the bright light of reason on this murky and frightening issue. We may not have the answers yet; we may not be able to articulate exactly how a man should be strong without violence and anger, sensitive and compassionate without losing self-focus, generous without giving himself away. We may not have a clear picture of how we want the pieces to fit together, but is there is a better topic of ongoing conversation, I can’t think of it.

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Parents: Let your son know that he is an important part of an extraordinary process—the redefinition of what it is to be a man—and regularly invite his active participation in exploring what that definition should be.

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Teachers: This is a great topic for classwork. We are in the midst of an historic cultural transition. Why leave it to historians to look back years from now and tell us what we did? Invite all your budding social theorists to dive in and creat their own pictures of what a man should be.

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Read History through New Eyes

“One of my favorite memories was reading the same books as my father and talking about them. It was a tradition we accidentally started when he told me that The Once and Future King was one of his favorite books, so we both, decided to read it.�?p>

We are a product of our history, and that is more true in how we perceive our roles as men and women than we might care to admit. Gender roles have been handed down for generation after generation. Often these roles were rooted in very practical and useful historical divisions of labor and only became constricting later, when the circumstances that gave rise to them changed but the role separations continued.

One of the most enjoyable ways to explore this history and unravel the reasons that made sense and the reasons that no longer make sense is to go back in time with your children and explore the world of gender roles. Expose them to stories of other cultures in which things were divided up differently.

Give your children the gift of perspective and the challenge of imagination. Use history to open their minds to what the present is and the

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