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　　精品閱讀：幫朋友忙要不要收錢

　　Should you charge friends for advice?

　　幫朋友忙要不要收錢

　　Are you the divorce attorney everyone calls with their marital woes? The accountant who finds that the dinner conversation inevitably turns to whether or not your friend's new iPad or trip to Bermuda is tax-deductible? Maybe you're the techie whose friends and parents' friends call repeatedly with questions about uploading photos to the cloud or sharing videos online.

　　身為離婚律師，是不是每個人都給你打電話咨詢他們的婚姻危機?身為會計師，你是不是發(fā)現(xiàn)晚餐的談話不可避免地轉(zhuǎn)向你朋友的新款iPad平板電腦或百慕大之旅可以免稅的話題?又或許，你是位技術(shù)專家，你的朋友和父母的朋友會反復(fù)打電話，詢問如何上傳照片到云盤或者分享在線視頻?

　　It's great to be an expert in your field, and it's flattering to be asked for your opinion or advice, but sometimes people cross the limits of personal and work-life boundaries. Just because Jonas Salk gave away the polio vaccine for free and Craig Newmark refuses to charge for Craigslist, you don't have to be a philanthropist too. As altruistic as you may be, you don't have to provide unlimited counsel to friends and family around the clock. You should be helpful when you can, but you are entitled to put meaningful limits on the pro bono advice you dish out regularly.

　　成為你所在領(lǐng)域的專家感覺不錯，別人征求你的意見或建議也讓你頗為得意，不過有時候人們越過了個人交往和工作與生活平衡的界限。不能因為喬納斯?索爾克免費提供脊髓灰質(zhì)炎疫苗，克雷格?紐馬克拒絕對Craigslist網(wǎng)站收費，你也必須當個慈善家。你也許大公無私，但是不必全天候為朋友或家人提供無窮無盡的建議。你應(yīng)該在你力所能及的時候提供幫助，但是你有權(quán)為你日常提供的無償建議加上有益的限制。

　　When you find yourself in situations that push the envelope, determine the amount of "free" time/energy you're willing to dedicate to a friend's issue and then give of yourself graciously within that time allotment. Next, give your friend or family member options of how you might continue to be helpful after their initial free pass.

　　當你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的處境超越極限的時候，那么你要在愿意致力于解決朋友的問題方面，限定“免費”的時間或精力范圍，然后在時間允許的情況下慷慨地幫助對方。接下來告訴你的朋友或家人，他們在最初的免費范圍以外，還可以選擇哪些方式繼續(xù)獲得你的幫助。

　　Friends help friends. When someone near and dear to you comes with a question, issue, or problem, be generous and share your talents or expertise freely. Agreeing to spend an hour setting up someone's email, 30 minutes reviewing a resume, or an afternoon brainstorming business ideas is well within the bounds of friendly advice and familial give and take. Spending a week setting up a website, troubleshooting tech issues endlessly, or drafting, writing, and reviewing an application to law school is crossing the line.

　　朋友總是相互幫助。如果有個非常親密的人向你咨詢某個問題或事項，你要盡量慷慨大方，免費分享你的才華和專業(yè)知識。比如，你愿意用一個小時處理某人的電子郵件，用30分鐘查看一份簡歷，花一個下午的時間集體討論經(jīng)營理念，這些做法都在提供友好建議以及為家庭做出奉獻與回報的范圍內(nèi)。用一個星期的時間建立一家網(wǎng)站，無休止地解答疑難的高科技問題，或者起草、撰寫和審核一份法學(xué)院申請信，這些做法就越過了界限。

　　Think about the amount of time or energy that fits into your schedule without undue personal sacrifice and the amount of time necessary to provide real value to the other person. As a career expert, I'm happy to give an hour of my time to prepare for a friend's performance review, script out asking for a raise or talk through a difficult conversation with the boss. I won't, however, coach you regularly or talk to your employees for free.

　　想想你要付出多少時間和精力，既適合你的日程安排，又不用做出過分的個人犧牲，確定向他人提供真正價值所需要的時間。作為一名職業(yè)咨詢專家，我很高興抽出一個小時的時間準備朋友的業(yè)績評估，撰寫要求加薪的腹稿，詳細討論與老板的溝通不暢問題。但是，我不會定期指導(dǎo)你，也不會免費和你的員工交流。